Let's Play A Game About Manners.
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dodger_sisterSo I accidentally made that poll a 'checky-box' which is okay because I can see what ideas you liked, even if you picked more than one. Except one of you picked ALL THE THINGS. You know who you are! That's not helpful! /points finger/ It currently looks like the Fictional Story Meme is winning but I'm leaving it open for awhile longer.
Now let's play a hypothetical. Let's say your family all lives in one state and you live a ways away in another state. And when you come to visit, you always stay with your sister, because she has the most room for your family and is in a central location and it just works out best. Still with me? So now let's say you are thinking about coming home for a visit. What is the first thing you do?
a) Tell your mom you are coming for a visit.
b) Tell your dad you are coming for a visit.
c) Ask your boss for time off.
d) Get time off and schedule the whole trip.
e) Call your sister and let her know what is going on.
As you can guess from the tone that I am sure is seeping its way through my written words here - The Canadian-Brother did a - d before he even bothered to do e. So my sister and I, the people who will be housing him, were the last to know.
And also, WE ARE NOT A HOTEL! You don't just call and book a room for the days you want. Again in this hypothetical game, if it were you, would you call and say "this is when we are coming home" or would you say "we are thinking of coming home in May - do you have anything going on?" Because if he had, we probably would have told him that May is already overly booked for us and that June would be a lot better.
We actually have something going on every weekend this month, which is a lot for me. You all know how I have been trying to be good about not overdoing myself too much. We had plans the weekend of his visit and plans for the weekend right after - (he'll be arriving on Friday the 18th and leaving on Wednesday the 23rd) - and we have to cancel/rearrange those plans now because my brother just told us that he is coming home. Not to mention how it is my and The BFF's birthday on the 23rd and now she has to go find a place to stay for the week because they are taking her bedroom. (I feel like I should specify here that when we invited her to move in after law school, it was with the provision that she give up the room for the week my brother comes home to visit...but that is between us and her. From his angle, he is taking her bedroom). If they had asked us, we would have told them that The BFF is moving out at the beginning of June and maybe they could come visit then.
I actually had a lot more complaints about this typed up but I think you all get the main picture. It's never convenient when they come visit but at least it would be nice if we didn't have to cancel things we had going on just because they are coming home. I wish my mom had bought a house that was big enough for his family to stay at. I love my brother and I hate that those kids are growing up so far away from me that I am missing it all. I want to be able to be happy when they come home to visit but when it puts this much stress on me, it is hard to be anything but grumpy.
Now let's play a hypothetical. Let's say your family all lives in one state and you live a ways away in another state. And when you come to visit, you always stay with your sister, because she has the most room for your family and is in a central location and it just works out best. Still with me? So now let's say you are thinking about coming home for a visit. What is the first thing you do?
a) Tell your mom you are coming for a visit.
b) Tell your dad you are coming for a visit.
c) Ask your boss for time off.
d) Get time off and schedule the whole trip.
e) Call your sister and let her know what is going on.
As you can guess from the tone that I am sure is seeping its way through my written words here - The Canadian-Brother did a - d before he even bothered to do e. So my sister and I, the people who will be housing him, were the last to know.
And also, WE ARE NOT A HOTEL! You don't just call and book a room for the days you want. Again in this hypothetical game, if it were you, would you call and say "this is when we are coming home" or would you say "we are thinking of coming home in May - do you have anything going on?" Because if he had, we probably would have told him that May is already overly booked for us and that June would be a lot better.
We actually have something going on every weekend this month, which is a lot for me. You all know how I have been trying to be good about not overdoing myself too much. We had plans the weekend of his visit and plans for the weekend right after - (he'll be arriving on Friday the 18th and leaving on Wednesday the 23rd) - and we have to cancel/rearrange those plans now because my brother just told us that he is coming home. Not to mention how it is my and The BFF's birthday on the 23rd and now she has to go find a place to stay for the week because they are taking her bedroom. (I feel like I should specify here that when we invited her to move in after law school, it was with the provision that she give up the room for the week my brother comes home to visit...but that is between us and her. From his angle, he is taking her bedroom). If they had asked us, we would have told them that The BFF is moving out at the beginning of June and maybe they could come visit then.
I actually had a lot more complaints about this typed up but I think you all get the main picture. It's never convenient when they come visit but at least it would be nice if we didn't have to cancel things we had going on just because they are coming home. I wish my mom had bought a house that was big enough for his family to stay at. I love my brother and I hate that those kids are growing up so far away from me that I am missing it all. I want to be able to be happy when they come home to visit but when it puts this much stress on me, it is hard to be anything but grumpy.
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Date: 2012-05-01 10:58 pm (UTC)Probably not as exciting in RL as it sounds in fic. What jerks.
The thing is, I don't think when my cousin was all, "Your computer isn't a hobby," that she had any idea what I use my computer for. Which is just more of how I feel like people think I just sit around doing nothing and they really have no concept of what my life actually is.
I know what you mean about fandom bringing you closer to your BFF. It did the same for my sister and me - we were both writing in LotR fandom at the same time and didn't know it. Now we have this big thing that is a huge part of our life that we can share with each other. It's amazing, isn't it?
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Date: 2012-05-01 11:31 pm (UTC)I doubt she realised, I don't think a lot of people do see all the things you can do with computers. A few people know I sit up writing all night when I can't sleep, only 2 people know what I write, especially where people don't know I do challenges, i don't think they get that I sometimes need to get on the computer, general people don't seem to get how a hobby can conect you to people.
I think it's kind of cool/awesome that you both ended up writing in the same fandom with out knowing it, my BFF was reading my fanfic before she knew it was me lol It really is amazing how close fandom can bring people
Unrelated comment: I'm doing a H/C mini challenge that has to be in a small fandom, so I'm writing Haven fan fic for the first time....writing in a new fandom is scary, I don't know how you write in so many!
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Date: 2012-05-02 02:29 am (UTC)Been there, done that, honey.
Yeah, I think you are right. I think maybe my cousin thought I was just scrolling around the internet aimlessly or something. I know a lot of people don't get it because my aunt kept trying to get me to join different groups where you play cards. She really enjoyed it and made friends that way but I have never been a great card player and I didn't have time for that with all my fandom stuff. I am sure they were nice people but why would I want to talk to them when I could be talking to someone in fandom? I couldn't seem to get my aunt to understand that I already had a hobby and I was quite happy with it. She kept pushing it, telling me it would be good for me 'socially'. Idek.
my BFF was reading my fanfic before she knew it was me lol
That is the COOLEST! I had read one of my sister's fics before I knew it was her. When she told me her online name, I was like, "I know you! You are a really good hobbit gen writer!" I couldn't believe it.
What is Haven? It sounds familiar but I don't watch it.
....writing in a new fandom is scary, I don't know how you write in so many!
I don't know, I think I like to challenge myself. It is fun to get into different characters heads.
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Date: 2012-05-02 03:23 am (UTC)Other people always think their hobbies are better or more social. I think you really do have to be in fandom to really get it. Although the BFF's husband to be knows we write it and read it and he actually seems to get it, both the social aspect and the passion we have for writing and you know hot men with other hot men.
I saw the hobbit with a new cover today, already getting ready for the film, you and your sister should write some hobbit fic to celerbrate *enabler, I know lol*
Haven is a sci fi show based on a stephen King book. A Feamle FBI agent goes to a small town and a lot of the locals have weird abilities that effect everyone but her, including a man who can't feel anything but her touch.
In total I think I've written in five fandoms, with different pairings in some of them, cross overs, threesomes. But this fandom is really new to me, so I'm curious to see what reaction it'll get, I'm pretty happy with it, it was easier to get into the caracters head than I thought it would be.
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Date: 2012-05-02 10:21 pm (UTC)LOL Don't worry, I am sure we will. I actually expect the release of the movie will spark a ressurection of the LotR fandom along with some more "Hobbit"-based stuff. I doubt it will be the whirlwind that we saw last time around, but I still look forward to it.
Haven is on the SyFy channel, right? Now that you describe it to me, I think I know it. I remember seeing ads for it when it first came on air a few years back, but I don't think we had that channel at the time. Now we do though, so maybe I should get caught up and start watching it.
I am glad writing in the new fandom is working out for you! You know, I see you challenge yourself with so many different couplings and kinks and plot ideas (your plot ideas always catch my attention). Like you have managed to stretch your fandoms out because you are daring enough to try new things. So I can see how you would also be up to the challenge of trying a new fandom now. Good luck!
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Date: 2012-05-02 10:34 pm (UTC)Yep it's on SyFy, I caught it when they were re running from the start. waiting for a new series after a cliffy ending.
I finished the fic. so once it's beta'd I can see how people react to it. I love challenges and how they get me writing diffrent types of things I never expected to write. Thanks, I'm reaaly glad my plots catch your attention :)You know me, challenge addict lol