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dodger_sister) wrote2013-07-19 03:28 pm
dodger_sister) wrote2013-07-19 03:28 pm
Like One Of The Seven Dwarfs.
Everything has been making me grumpy all week. Mainly the problem is the heat - it's been in the low hundreds since Sunday. The air pressure keeps making me dizzy and my sister even had a little bout of heat-sickness while running errands. Also, I think in some part I am extra edgy because Cory Monteith's death really brought up a bunch of crap I didn't want to think about. And then the whole world is just being stupid. If I go to Tumblr because I need kittens and Dean/Cas to cheer me up, please stop dropping social issues in my face. Yes, I think people can be more educated about things and yes, that story about the pedophile getting custody of his kid is upsetting - but I was ALREADY UPSET, so please just let me look at Dean/Cas arts and stop harshing my buzz.
This is by way of saying if you don't want your buzz to be harshed by my rant, don’t click the cut…
*Saying that a person who craves attention is like a drug addict except that they will always crave the attention, whereas once a drug addict is off the drugs, they will never crave the drugs again. Um...NO. WRONG. Yes, you are not chemically dependent on it anymore, but NO, YOU WILL NEVER STOP FULLY CRAVING IT. It may get less or better, but it will NEVER go away. I thought most people, even people without this personal experience, understood that these days.
*Going to the Tumblr tag ‘addiction’ is not the same as going to recovery forums and is, overall, a bad idea. There were some posts that were what I needed, were helpful or thoughtful. But in the middle of those were various people saying things like, ‘I think I have a serious addiction and this might kill me. I'm addicted to Tumblr!!!!! lol.’ Don't tag that shit 'addiction'! Internet addiction is actually a problem, but this was just some dumbass making a joke about it. Pissed my shit off.
*My current physical therapist - who I adore - telling a story about how they often leave soaps on the TV and one day a patient was like, "Uh, can we change the channel?" and she looked up and saw two dudes kissing and was like, "Ewwwwwww, yes, let's change the channel." Woman, you are 34 years old - that is an uncalled for reaction! "When did soaps start doing that?" Oh, Idk, ten years ago! I admit to cutting a lot of slack to people in the generations above mine when they have a kneejerk reaction like that - especially when I know them to not be bigoted in any way - it’s just that in the ratio of their lifetime, this is not something they are used to seeing. But I expect better from my own generation! Now I'm side-eyeing her real hard. (I also spent a lot of time after that telling her about a romance I was reading and emphasizing how the two love interests were both guys! Ha!)
*My cousin’s 13 year old son saying about his step-sister that he has never known a kid who likes to clean as much as she does and how 'she is going to make some man a real good wife'. And I was like, "What if she doesn't want to be a wife? Or what if she wants to divide the household chores up with her spouse?" and he told me that a woman's job is to do all the cleaning. And then someone said something about a male nurse, and he said, "Hold the phone! Dudes are nurses? No, only women are nurses. That's a woman's job," and I was like, "Hey, the best nurse I ever had was a man." And my sister was all, "You know what? That's bullshit. We got to knock that right out of you, boy. No one in our family thinks like that," and I said, "It's the year 2013, you better rewire that brain of yours to this century." Man, the heavy influence I had on the first eight years of this child's life have been completely washed away by his mother apparently remarrying a misogynistic asshat.
The BFF can attest that was only a small portion of the things I ranted about on the phone on Wednesday, so to cheer myself up, I went and watched stories on youtube about foster kids being adopted. And that’s when I found this. Do you think if you just met a random person that you would ever walk away from the encounter and think, “I think that is my brother." Because that’s what happened here.
Check it out!
It’ll make you feel better!
This is by way of saying if you don't want your buzz to be harshed by my rant, don’t click the cut…
*Saying that a person who craves attention is like a drug addict except that they will always crave the attention, whereas once a drug addict is off the drugs, they will never crave the drugs again. Um...NO. WRONG. Yes, you are not chemically dependent on it anymore, but NO, YOU WILL NEVER STOP FULLY CRAVING IT. It may get less or better, but it will NEVER go away. I thought most people, even people without this personal experience, understood that these days.
*Going to the Tumblr tag ‘addiction’ is not the same as going to recovery forums and is, overall, a bad idea. There were some posts that were what I needed, were helpful or thoughtful. But in the middle of those were various people saying things like, ‘I think I have a serious addiction and this might kill me. I'm addicted to Tumblr!!!!! lol.’ Don't tag that shit 'addiction'! Internet addiction is actually a problem, but this was just some dumbass making a joke about it. Pissed my shit off.
*My current physical therapist - who I adore - telling a story about how they often leave soaps on the TV and one day a patient was like, "Uh, can we change the channel?" and she looked up and saw two dudes kissing and was like, "Ewwwwwww, yes, let's change the channel." Woman, you are 34 years old - that is an uncalled for reaction! "When did soaps start doing that?" Oh, Idk, ten years ago! I admit to cutting a lot of slack to people in the generations above mine when they have a kneejerk reaction like that - especially when I know them to not be bigoted in any way - it’s just that in the ratio of their lifetime, this is not something they are used to seeing. But I expect better from my own generation! Now I'm side-eyeing her real hard. (I also spent a lot of time after that telling her about a romance I was reading and emphasizing how the two love interests were both guys! Ha!)
*My cousin’s 13 year old son saying about his step-sister that he has never known a kid who likes to clean as much as she does and how 'she is going to make some man a real good wife'. And I was like, "What if she doesn't want to be a wife? Or what if she wants to divide the household chores up with her spouse?" and he told me that a woman's job is to do all the cleaning. And then someone said something about a male nurse, and he said, "Hold the phone! Dudes are nurses? No, only women are nurses. That's a woman's job," and I was like, "Hey, the best nurse I ever had was a man." And my sister was all, "You know what? That's bullshit. We got to knock that right out of you, boy. No one in our family thinks like that," and I said, "It's the year 2013, you better rewire that brain of yours to this century." Man, the heavy influence I had on the first eight years of this child's life have been completely washed away by his mother apparently remarrying a misogynistic asshat.
The BFF can attest that was only a small portion of the things I ranted about on the phone on Wednesday, so to cheer myself up, I went and watched stories on youtube about foster kids being adopted. And that’s when I found this. Do you think if you just met a random person that you would ever walk away from the encounter and think, “I think that is my brother." Because that’s what happened here.
It’ll make you feel better!
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Yeah, a good balance is key, I think. Yours has a nice balance to it. I think my main problem is I need to stop scrolling through tags - too much crazy in the tags. Also, have you seen Teen Wolf fandom on Tumblr? Wow, I forgot how wanky early-on fandoms can be.
I hate when people are that stupid and don't think about what their words mean and how much they matter to younger kids.
Yeah, I hate when people talk about stuff in front of kids and think the kids won't pick up on it. "Oh, he's playing in the corner, he can't hear us." He's playing - not deaf! But in regards to my cousin's step-dad, I think this guy is actively teaching these view points to the kid. He also carries a concealed weapon around everywhere, even with his 3yr old with him, and has convinced my 13yr old cousin that guns are the coolest things ever. And we aren't talking about hunting rifles here! So I think he has no problem with the message he is sending to kids.
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That step-dad sounds terrifying, I wouldn't feel comfortable in a house like that. I didn't grow up with guns but it seems like a big part of having guns is respecting what they can do.
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I went to the Teen Wolf tag after the most recent episode because I was excited and wanted to see what everyone was saying - and while some of it was good - (and of course people had giffed all the scenes I wanted to see giffed!) - a lot of it was ship bashing and over the top emotional feels that had me like, "Okay, maybe I have gotten too old now to have such dramatic feelings about a TV show because these kids need to calm down!" I think I just need to find some Teen Wolf-ers out there who this isn't there first time around the block and follow those people. Tags are evil!
I wouldn't feel comfortable in a house like that. I didn't grow up with guns but it seems like a big part of having guns is respecting what they can do.
It totally is a big part of it! I am from a farming family, which means a hunting family, but if one of us kids expressed interest in hunting, gun safety was the first thing we learned! Hunting rifles are not a new thing for the kid, but handguns hidden under a jacket - not okay in a house with a 13, 8 and 3 year old.
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I find it interesting that due to Tumblr, I think I'm the most aware I've ever been of the X-Men fandom due to who I follow since its easier to find places. LJ and DW can be good but sometimes its hard to know which comm will do what you want. Since on Tumblr, I mainly want pictures, searching can work.
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