Life Stresses.
Jul. 1st, 2015 12:23 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
dodger_sisterSo, my little brother has been really sick for about two months now. He has two different cysts in his groin region and they are extremely painful, making it almost unbearable for him to walk. Which means he is laid up, unable to care for his own fibromyalgia, unable to care for his home, unable to care for his kids. They have been running a bunch of tests and trying different treatment. Now he has been referred to the university hospital to see some specialists and it looks like they will have to do surgery to remove the cysts. They are baffled as to why he is in so much pain though. Also they haven't ruled out cancer, so there's that.
In the meantime, The Niece broke her arm. She was running through the house and tripped on a rug and held her arm out to catch herself in just such a way that she got two breaks in her arm. She is obvs cranky and bored from being on such restricted activity, like no swimming or playing at the beach. Not to mention her dad is not really able to take her outside, since he can barely walk. So there's that.
On top of all it, The Nephew is having serious behavior issues. Today my brother told him he couldn't go to the lake to swim with his friend and TN told my brother that he couldn't stop him and just left the house. He's been telling my brother, "You can't make me do anything!" and being outright belligerent. They even sent him to his aunt's daycare and when they picked him up, she said she had never been spoken to like that by a child in her life, like he was that disrespectful to her. I don't know if it's chemical - (with all the mental health issues in the family, it could be, like his dad was about this age when he started showing symptoms of his mental health issues) - or worry/frustration about his dad being sick, or boredom because his dad and sister can't do much, idek.
My brother was practically in tears today on the phone, saying he was at his wits end. My worry is that my brother is making his other health ailments worse from all the stress and trying to do too much and my nephew is getting worse behavior-wise because my brother is reacting impatiently and short-tempered to everything. Like I can tell my brother has completely lost control of his parenting skills and is making the situation worse, but that won't stop until he gets some relief health-wise and in the meantime is damaging his relationship with The Nephew, so...IDEK.
We are looking at helping them pay for daycare for the summer or having him come stay here, but only if we can get him into some sort of summer program because he can't stay with me all day, I am too exhausted for that. They can also send him to Arizona to stay with an aunt and uncle there, but I'd rather he came here. We have phone calls into different summer day camps and will see what we can do. I love that little guy so much, it breaks my heart to see him act like this, to see him suffer so.
In the meantime, The Niece broke her arm. She was running through the house and tripped on a rug and held her arm out to catch herself in just such a way that she got two breaks in her arm. She is obvs cranky and bored from being on such restricted activity, like no swimming or playing at the beach. Not to mention her dad is not really able to take her outside, since he can barely walk. So there's that.
On top of all it, The Nephew is having serious behavior issues. Today my brother told him he couldn't go to the lake to swim with his friend and TN told my brother that he couldn't stop him and just left the house. He's been telling my brother, "You can't make me do anything!" and being outright belligerent. They even sent him to his aunt's daycare and when they picked him up, she said she had never been spoken to like that by a child in her life, like he was that disrespectful to her. I don't know if it's chemical - (with all the mental health issues in the family, it could be, like his dad was about this age when he started showing symptoms of his mental health issues) - or worry/frustration about his dad being sick, or boredom because his dad and sister can't do much, idek.
My brother was practically in tears today on the phone, saying he was at his wits end. My worry is that my brother is making his other health ailments worse from all the stress and trying to do too much and my nephew is getting worse behavior-wise because my brother is reacting impatiently and short-tempered to everything. Like I can tell my brother has completely lost control of his parenting skills and is making the situation worse, but that won't stop until he gets some relief health-wise and in the meantime is damaging his relationship with The Nephew, so...IDEK.
We are looking at helping them pay for daycare for the summer or having him come stay here, but only if we can get him into some sort of summer program because he can't stay with me all day, I am too exhausted for that. They can also send him to Arizona to stay with an aunt and uncle there, but I'd rather he came here. We have phone calls into different summer day camps and will see what we can do. I love that little guy so much, it breaks my heart to see him act like this, to see him suffer so.
