If she were doing her exercises and not lying to the doctor (!!!) and at least making an effort to get better, that would be one thing. But it seems to me that she has decided to shut down and leave everything about her care to you guys!
The thing is, she wants to go home, so badly. But she doesn't want to do the work to get there. It's like she thinks it'll just happen. But it doesn't work like that. Her body is pushing against her, if she doesn't push back, she won't ever get anywhere. Wishful thinking doesn't actually work!
So, for reasons, she has to stay here for the week. I laid down pretty hard boundaries and once she settled in, it hasn't been terrible. But I have been witness to her own self-sabotage. Like walking around without her walker while carrying a wet washcloth that was dripping wet water onto the floor and making it all slick and wet and her without her walker, omg! I keep saying, "You're an adult, you can do what you want," because it's none of my business, but it's like she wants to fall down again or something. It really is self-sabotage and she is completely unaware.
Still, I'm sticking to my boundaries, even with her in the house, so it' s going okay-ish. I mean, she's driving me nuts in her regular Mom way, but I'm staying out of the rest of it.
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The thing is, she wants to go home, so badly. But she doesn't want to do the work to get there. It's like she thinks it'll just happen. But it doesn't work like that. Her body is pushing against her, if she doesn't push back, she won't ever get anywhere. Wishful thinking doesn't actually work!
So, for reasons, she has to stay here for the week. I laid down pretty hard boundaries and once she settled in, it hasn't been terrible. But I have been witness to her own self-sabotage. Like walking around without her walker while carrying a wet washcloth that was dripping wet water onto the floor and making it all slick and wet and her without her walker, omg! I keep saying, "You're an adult, you can do what you want," because it's none of my business, but it's like she wants to fall down again or something. It really is self-sabotage and she is completely unaware.
Still, I'm sticking to my boundaries, even with her in the house, so it' s going okay-ish. I mean, she's driving me nuts in her regular Mom way, but I'm staying out of the rest of it.