Just The Way You Are.
Apr. 18th, 2013 04:17 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
dodger_sisterNEW ZEALAND HAS LEGALIZED SAME-SEX MARRIAGE!! Go, New Zealand! You’ll always be my favorite. They now join the ranks of the Netherlands (all the way back in 2001), Argentina, Belgium, Canada, Denmark, Iceland, Norway, Portugal, South Africa, Spain and Sweden.
Here is an article from The Guardian that features an uplifting video of the Parliament floor just after the vote was announced. Seriously, I could never see any American Congress or Senate floor breaking out in song. This was just...beautiful.
Also, Rob Lowe was on Ferguson on Monday - (many kudos to Craig for going on the air after the bombings and putting on a really good, uplifting and emotional show, despite his very obvious anger and upset. His stated love and history with Boston was evident in his voice). So Craig & Rob get to talking about the 80s and what their lifestyles were like back then. Neither of them held back, they were brutally honest about their drug use and behavior in the past, which seems to me the only way to really have a handle on it - with honesty. Rob said he wouldn’t take back a second of it, because it lead him to be who he is today. And I respect that, because I feel the same way about most things in my life. I can’t say I wouldn’t change anything, but then I wonder, “Would I be me if I did?”
At one point they were discussing their approach to talking with their kids about drugs. Rob talked about how no matter what you say to your kids, they are going to make their own choices and the big issue is being able to recognize when you don’t have a handle on your choices anymore. Craig pointed out that he was in desperate need of help about five years before he was able to recognize it.
The thing that really struck me is that Rob said he has been sober for 23 years. 23 years. I just started clapping - laying alone in my room in the dark watching Ferguson - I just had to start clapping. Because that is amazing. Idk, I just felt...good. Anybody who lived through the eighties, probably remembers the complete out of control life that Rob was living. I mean, this guy was hardcore in the way he partied, in the way he lived, and here he is, 23 years later, clean and living a whole life now, not just the bits and pieces of a life. Nothing I did was ever even remotely on that level - though I made a lot of stupid choices along the way - and Rob making it that far just gave me hope. I mean, you aren’t suppose to look that far ahead really, it gets too overwhelming - one day at a time has its purpose - but I thought about it and 23 years for me will make me 54 years old. I can’t even think about that. And odds are, given my circumstances, that I probably won’t stay sober that long. There will inevitably come a day when I have to take pain pills again - my body is only getting older and more run down, after all. The idea that once I’m taking them steadily again, that I won’t ever abuse them doesn’t seem realistic. But even so...five years ago, in the worst of it, I couldn’t even imagine being alive at the age of 54. And now, I can.
There was also a really cute moment where Craig was talking about some club he was a doorman at and Rob wanted to know who the worst celebrity person was to deal with when they came in. When Craig wouldn’t answer him, Rob got all woobie and said, “Oh no, was it me? It wasn’t me! Was it?” He was so freaking cute right then, all sincere and adorable. Craig promised to tell him who the worst celebrity was during the commercial break.
I just wanted to say - Mr. Lowe, I salute you. You give me hope.
Here is an article from The Guardian that features an uplifting video of the Parliament floor just after the vote was announced. Seriously, I could never see any American Congress or Senate floor breaking out in song. This was just...beautiful.
Also, Rob Lowe was on Ferguson on Monday - (many kudos to Craig for going on the air after the bombings and putting on a really good, uplifting and emotional show, despite his very obvious anger and upset. His stated love and history with Boston was evident in his voice). So Craig & Rob get to talking about the 80s and what their lifestyles were like back then. Neither of them held back, they were brutally honest about their drug use and behavior in the past, which seems to me the only way to really have a handle on it - with honesty. Rob said he wouldn’t take back a second of it, because it lead him to be who he is today. And I respect that, because I feel the same way about most things in my life. I can’t say I wouldn’t change anything, but then I wonder, “Would I be me if I did?”
At one point they were discussing their approach to talking with their kids about drugs. Rob talked about how no matter what you say to your kids, they are going to make their own choices and the big issue is being able to recognize when you don’t have a handle on your choices anymore. Craig pointed out that he was in desperate need of help about five years before he was able to recognize it.
The thing that really struck me is that Rob said he has been sober for 23 years. 23 years. I just started clapping - laying alone in my room in the dark watching Ferguson - I just had to start clapping. Because that is amazing. Idk, I just felt...good. Anybody who lived through the eighties, probably remembers the complete out of control life that Rob was living. I mean, this guy was hardcore in the way he partied, in the way he lived, and here he is, 23 years later, clean and living a whole life now, not just the bits and pieces of a life. Nothing I did was ever even remotely on that level - though I made a lot of stupid choices along the way - and Rob making it that far just gave me hope. I mean, you aren’t suppose to look that far ahead really, it gets too overwhelming - one day at a time has its purpose - but I thought about it and 23 years for me will make me 54 years old. I can’t even think about that. And odds are, given my circumstances, that I probably won’t stay sober that long. There will inevitably come a day when I have to take pain pills again - my body is only getting older and more run down, after all. The idea that once I’m taking them steadily again, that I won’t ever abuse them doesn’t seem realistic. But even so...five years ago, in the worst of it, I couldn’t even imagine being alive at the age of 54. And now, I can.
There was also a really cute moment where Craig was talking about some club he was a doorman at and Rob wanted to know who the worst celebrity person was to deal with when they came in. When Craig wouldn’t answer him, Rob got all woobie and said, “Oh no, was it me? It wasn’t me! Was it?” He was so freaking cute right then, all sincere and adorable. Craig promised to tell him who the worst celebrity was during the commercial break.
I just wanted to say - Mr. Lowe, I salute you. You give me hope.
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Date: 2013-04-19 12:12 am (UTC)I love your Rob Lowe story! (I bet it was him.)
You better be here at age 54! I will be 68 about to turn 69 and I bet I will still be writing and needing wacky ideas!
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Date: 2013-04-20 07:27 pm (UTC)My thoughts exactly! South Africa is the big one that threw me for a loop on that list. I mean, to be honest, when I heard that New Zealand had legalized same-sex marriage, my reaction was, "Huh. They didn't have that already?" because they seem like a pretty progressive country and I could have sworn they already had it over there. I'm really thrilled that we have added another country to the list but it does make me go 'ugh' because here we are with all our power and influence and modern way of life, and our politicians keep wasting a lot of money trying to stop people who love each other from getting married.
I love your Rob Lowe story! (I bet it was him.)
Rob is not someone that I normally am like, "Omg!!!" over, but he was so fucking cute on Craig the other night and their talk was very interesting. (I bet it was him too! If not Rob, then one of those other Brat Pack kids, probably Charlie Sheen!)
You better be here at age 54! I will be 68 about to turn 69 and I bet I will still be writing and needing wacky ideas!
Awwwww. I think I will. I mean, had I kept going the way I was with the pills, I probably wouldn't be here right now at all, but it's weird - when I was a kid my parents didn't think I would be alive by 35 (I was too young then to realize they are naysayers about everything) and here I am like a month away from my 35th. I mean, you never know with my body, but in general, 54 does not seem as much of a pipe dream as it once did. And even when I'm in a nursing home someday, I'll be the only resident there writing porn, I can say that much! I promise to keep throwing you wacky ideas, babe!
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Date: 2013-04-20 07:59 pm (UTC)Ooh, yeah. Charlie Sheen IS a good bet for that kind of thing. You know, when I catch Ferris Bueller's Day Off, I'm AMAZED at how pretty Sheen used to be. Prettier by far than either his dad or brother!
I didn't think I'd make it past 35 either, but not because I had people telling me so or because of health issues. It was because I grew up having nuclear bomb drills in elementary school, and seeing Cold War tensions every day until the Wall came down. (At least, that was how it felt.)
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Date: 2013-04-20 08:42 pm (UTC)It was because I grew up having nuclear bomb drills in elementary school, and seeing Cold War tensions every day until the Wall came down.
That's insane. I can't imagine being a kid and living with that kind of terror.
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Date: 2013-04-20 08:50 pm (UTC)Which is a sad statement about the adaptability of the human mind, I guess?
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Date: 2013-04-20 09:20 pm (UTC)I get that, yeah. My sister was telling me about this guy she knew once, whose wife was from Afghanistan and they went to visit some family there. At some café or something, she takes his arm and pulls him behind some column and he asks her why she did that and she says, "There is an unattended baby buggy over there," and he goes, "So?" and she went, "Oh, it probably has a bomb in it." Completely casual like, no big deal, because she grew up where that was the norm. It does boggle your mind what people find themselves adapting too, indeed.
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Date: 2013-04-20 10:09 pm (UTC)Until now....
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Date: 2013-04-19 03:58 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2013-04-20 07:29 pm (UTC)Right? Big beautiful tears, darling. I literally felt a warmth rush through my body - that was unreal and amazing. Go New Zealand!
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Date: 2013-04-23 02:08 am (UTC)five years ago, in the worst of it, I couldn’t even imagine being alive at the age of 54. And now, I can. *hugs* oh bb, I sincerely hope you make it another 23 years and are still cranking out the porn!
gods, in 23 years I'll be 60! that seems so old! lol
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Date: 2013-04-28 11:48 pm (UTC)Thank goodness for The Boy for so many reasons then! I think my cousin had that same thing - he was doing cocaine and at about 22 his girl got pregnant and he really cleaned his shit up then. Otherwise, I doubt he'd be here.
And you! You are doing so great yourself you know. *beams*
Thank you. It's weird right now, because I have a friend who has a family member going through the same thing I went through with pain pills and abuse, and in complete denial of it, and every time my friend tells me the latest in the saga it is like watching my own life through a video rewind, or seeing how it was for everyone else on the outside of it. It's very strange. But I'm coming up on 3 years and 4 months soon, so I'm still trudging along!
*hugs* oh bb, I sincerely hope you make it another 23 years and are still cranking out the porn!
LOL I like to joke that I'll be the only little old lady in the nursing home writing filthy porn for the internet!
gods, in 23 years I'll be 60! that seems so old! lol
I can't even think about that! In 23 years I'll actually be 57, but when I counted out the years for this I was thinking '23 years sober' which since I already have 3 years in will be 54. But yeah, in 2036 (that's what year it'll be in 23 years, holy shit!) I'll be 57 and you'll be 60. What even, bb.